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Co-parenting an infant requires planning, patience and dedication

Babies bring joy, fear, happiness and stress to new parents. Sleepless nights, endless feedings and not knowing what it is your infant needs are the hallmarks of being a new parent, but you probably wouldn't change it for the world.

The only thing you might change is that you seem to be doing the bulk of the work on your own. Your relationship with the other parent didn't work out, and having an infant was no reason to remain together. However, it is a reason to work together in order to raise your new child with two loving parents. Making this work while your child is an infant presents unique challenges.

It takes planning

More than likely, as the mother, you will spend the bulk of the time with your baby, at least at first, especially if you breastfeed. Even so, you want the other parent to have a relationship with your child from the beginning. Depending on the state of your relationship, you may be able to spend time together, or you may need to remain separate.

Visitations may need to occur in your home at first. The father will need to know about your baby's habits as you know them at this point so that when you discuss scheduling visitation times, he knows that you aren't trying to keep him from his child, you are just trying to accommodate everyone involved.

It takes patience

Learning your baby's needs takes time. You may learn faster due to the amount of time you spend with your infant, but your ex also needs time to learn as well. This could take some time since the visits are shorter. Both of you need to understand that it will take time before overnight visitations can happen. The time in between can get stressful and frustrating for both of you, but each of you needs to remember that you are doing this for your child.

It takes dedication

The two of you can devise a co-parenting schedule that works best for you both and the baby. Each of you will need to honor your parts of the agreement. You may encounter unforeseen issues that will need your prompt attention. You can build a way to resolve disputes or deal with emergencies and schedule changes into your agreement.

In the end, it's about each parent building a relationship and bond with your child. As long as you keep the best interests of your child in mind, the court may approve whatever agreement the two of you reach.

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